IMG_5718 The Pagoda at The Sanctuary at Two Rivers in Cabuya, Costa Rica

I have attended several spiritual seminars and retreats this past year, and the biggest take away from them all is the power of sharing your truth with others. There is so much strength and wisdom in being vulnerable and authentic.

When I share my story and speak my truth, my life is transformed. Trauma and sadness from my past lose power over me. I feel lighter as the tight grip of shame is released.

Opening up and listening to others also allows me to see how much we are all alike–we all long for the freedom to be ourselves, to be loved and accepted in a compassionate, judgement-free environment. We are all insecure in some way, we all battle with not feeling good enough, we all want to love ourselves deeper and more effortlessly. We want financial freedom, peace of mind, and to know that we matter.

Deep healing and transformation occurred for me through journaling and sharing truth. The exercise of writing down the story I’m ready to release, and replacing it with the story I’m choosing to create has proven to be life-altering for me.

I invite you to take some quiet time for yourself, and do the following exercise with me:

The story I release is…

For example, I wrote: I have so many sad stories when it comes to men. There’s no need to rehash them here. They’ve lived in my bones for years. I’m healing those sad stories.

In Costa Rica, I released all that sadness, and the stories I created around these men that aren’t based in reality, but fear:

Am I good enough?

Am I pretty enough?

When I accomplish more, I will be worthy of him. He will notice me, and want to be with me.

I’m not skinny enough for him.

It was my fault.

Why do I insist on loving men who do not love me?

 

This is where you get all your sadness, anger, disappointment and trauma out on paper. Take as long as you need. Get it all out. No editing needed. Just write. Cry. Release.

Once you are finished, you will now turn the page in your journal, and write the NEW story you are creating for yourself.

I wrote:

It all sounds so silly now.

It has nothing to do with them.

It was all happening for me.

It made me who I am today, and gosh I love that person. I light up a room. I tell the truth. I am beautiful just because. Any man would be lucky to be with me. I’ve done the work. I’ve worked my shit out. I own who I am. I have so much love to give. I know because I’ve given it so freely to others my entire life.

Now, it is my time. I’ve learned to give this ridiculously fierce love to myself. I am strong. I am powerful. I am happy and in love with myself. That’s how I know I am ready for my papi. Not so he can complete me, or allow me to live up to some silly societal standard, but because I deserve to have mirrored back to me the love I so freely give.

It’s time. I’m ready. Thank you for all the lessons. Thank you Raf and Sam (my deceased loved ones) for watching over me. I release you now, too. You are free to go, and let me love someone who truly loves themselves–only HE is the perfect match for me.

I love you, Kate 🙂 xoxo

I shared this story with the 14 other women on my SISTERHOOD retreat last week in Costa Rica. I sobbed the whole way through. It was a huge release to get it all out, be my most raw, vulnerable self, and call in the new story and life I am consciously creating.

The day after I returned home, I met the kind of man I have been praying for–the man I called in during my retreat. We had a beautiful first date the following night. I could easily project fear onto the relationship because of my past, but because I released all of that and now choose joy and love, I am able to relax, enjoy the moment, trust and expect miracles.

I wish the same for you. It is your choice. You have all the power. All you have to do is step into it.

IMG_5743 The Sanctuary at Two Rivers where I wrote the story I was ready to release.