Angry, Stressed, Frustrated? Here’s A Simple Exercise To Quickly Return To Joy


Nicole LeBris Creative

I was recently disappointed by a work situation that left me feeling unappreciated, annoyed, frustrated, stressed about money and all around pissed off. I know I’m not alone in these feelings. Who hasn’t felt this way at one time or another?

It’s part of the human condition, but so is the choice to do something about our pain, work through it and come out of the situation wiser, stronger and happier.

I have learned the hard way (through traumas and tragedy) that life is extremely precious and too short to spend it suffering. That’s not why we are here on Earth. When I am feeling out of alignment now, (stuck in anger, frustration and feeling irritable), I allow myself to feel those feeling deeply (no self-medicating with food, alcohol or shopping, or numbing myself out with mindless reality television).

It is vital that we let ourselves feel our feelings first, otherwise the pain will just resurface at a later date with a vengeance, negatively affecting our careers, relationships and health. I know, I used to suppress my feelings in the name of “put on a happy face” and “suck it up.”

When I give myself sufficient time to work through whatever painful emotions come up for me, I then remind myself to return to gratitude as quickly as possible.

Even when we are in a really dark place, we can be grateful just to be alive, have a place to live, food on the table, clean clothes, friends and family who love us and fancy gadgets to read blogs like this on. We certainly have it pretty darn good!

But when we are deep in our sadness and anger, these luxuries we are afforded don’t seem to be enough at times.

That’s when we have to turn to a greater power, ask for help, physically stop and take a moment to come back home to ourselves. If you are saying to yourself, “I don’t have time for that,” then you are in desperate need of your own undivided attention, unconditional love and care. I recommend making your health and happiness a priority like you would a newborn baby. If you can’t do it for yourself, do it for your children, significant other, best friend or all those less fortunate than us.

When we raise our vibration, we raise the vibration of the world, and the world could certainly use our radiance right now!

One of my favorite exercises to stop suffering in its tracks is from life coach extraordinaire and best-selling author Tony Robbins.

When you’re ready, find a comfortable place to sit, close your eyes and place your hands on your heart. Breathe into your heart. Notice how powerful and beautiful it feels. Focus for a moment on that strength and beauty. Feel appreciation.

Now think of the situation that is causing you pain, suffering, frustration or grief. For example, “I’m frustrated these jobs keep getting cancelled, and I don’t have more money in the bank right now to grow my business and live the lifestyle I desire without getting into debt.” Be specific.

Keep feeling your heart and listen carefully to it. What is it trying to tell you in this moment?

With your eyes still closed and connecting to the power of your heart and mind, pay attention to what comes up for you. Then ask yourself:

In this situation, all I need to remember is: (I’m safe, for example)

All I need to do is: (Trust)

All I need to focus on is: (Doing my best.)

Take as long as you need. There are no right or wrong answers. The important thing is to simply let yourself feel and be open to the truth pouring from your heart/Higher Self. For me, the truth is that I am safe, and all I need to do is trust and focus on doing my best.

Many of us spend our lives overstimulated and exhausted just trying to keep up to survive. That could mean we forget to return to our breath, slow down and listen to our inner knowing. Our heart always knows the answer. We just have to give it the time and space to speak our truth to us.

I find this exercise to be a quick and powerful way to end our suffering around whatever situation is making us feel out of sorts. It is free, relaxing, takes just minutes and can be done again and again with any situation to help transform our lives.

When we are in gratitude, we cannot also be in fear or anger. Choose wisely!

I also love this exercise because it’s a great reminder that we are 100% responsible for our life experiences. What an empowered place to live from! Certainly setbacks and disappointments, trauma and tragedy can and will arise, but we don’t have to stay stuck in a low-vibe state of despair. Our hearts and minds want to work together to bring us a fulfilling, joyful life that lights us up.







7 Tips For Loving & Honoring Your Body (Yes, Even The “Flaws”)

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It’s become part of what it means to be human: point out something about yourself you don’t like, a perceived flaw that needs to be fixed.

We haven’t learned this behavior all on our own: we’re constantly being bombarded with images of “perfect” (airbrushed, sometimes completely reconstructed) bodies. We’re constantly being fed a message of needing to slim down and tone up. Want the job? Lose weight! Want your dream partner? Lose weight! Want to be happy, rich, successful, attractive? Lose weight!

It’s easy to see why we’re so hard on ourselves, finding it impossible to reach a beauty standard that’s absurd and unattainable.

At a healthy size 12, I work as a plus-size model. I find the label degrading, but at the same time, I’m happy there’s a place in the industry for my body type: I love representing curvy women and showing more diversity in fashion.

I’ve certainly been guilty of comparing myself to others, and definitely had some emotional moments being the “big girl” on set when shooting with size two models. But these insecurities ultimately let me heal and release, and that’s been the greatest blessing of all.

Here are some of the steps I’ve taken and committed to that have enabled me to love and honor my body:

1. Practice the art of acceptance, even when it seems impossible.

Loving your body starts with acceptance. You have to know who you are and what you’re working with.

I’m built exactly like my dad: tall, strong and athletic. I’m not, have never been and will never be super skinny. It isn’t my body type or bone structure. But I eat clean, work out and stay active. I’m not the skinniest girl in the room, but I’m definitely one of the strongest!

Focus on your best assets. My thighs may be “big,” but they’re are what help me be a great athlete, and I find beauty in strength and fitness.

2. Learn to forgive wholeheartedly.

Through guided meditations, energy work like Reiki, journaling, walks in nature, reading and dedication to living a healthy lifestyle, I’ve learned to forgive myself for negative self-talk and others for the unkind things they say about my body or body type. Forgiveness is a choice I choose to make on a regular basis.

Recognize unkind words as just thoughts, perceived fear not based in reality. Forgiveness releases you and others, allowing you to live your life from a place of love. Anything you’ve done to your body that didn’t come from a loving place can be forgiven and healed.

3. Be willing to see your body in a new light.

Be willing to let go of old thought patterns that don’t promote a positive body image. Be willing to see love instead of fear. Be willing to eat healthy, exercise and take care of your body. Be willing to try new things.

For me, it was reiki, fascial stretch therapy and meditation. These practices put me more in touch with my energy, body and ability to heal. As the old saying goes, “Where there’s a will, there’s a way.” Or as I like to say, If I can do it, so can you!

4. Gain a sense of perspective.

A shift in perspective can literally shift your life. By choosing to see your body as beautiful and appreciate it for all it’s done for you, you can honor your body instead of complaining about what’s wrong with it. Our egos love for us to believe bad things about ourselves, so don’t take the bait. Choose to see your body as the temple it is instead.

5. Don’t compare.

This is a big one, and something our society loves to do. Comparing keeps us small. It lowers our energy. Quite simply, it feels like crap.

I meet many naturally thin women who tell me they wish they had my curves despite sometimes wishing I had a slimmer stomach. It’s imperative that we stay in our own lane. The wasted time and energy you spend comparing yourself to others could be spent nurturing your own body.

6. Take a bath.

It might sound silly, I know, but I take a bubble bath almost everyday. Besides getting clean, I find it extremely relaxing and it helps me connect to my body. It’s my time to take care of and nurture myself. It’s not just a skin-softening ritual, but also a body love ritual.

Warm water, healing epsom salts and essential oils give me such a sense of calm and draw attention to my sense of self. We’re all so busy working and taking care of others that we often neglect ourselves. A bath slows you down and allows you to love yourself in a pure, simple way.

7. Say thank you.

Forget the grueling hour-long sessions with your trainer, marathon races or even child birth for a second. Yes, your body does all of that for you, but it also got you up out of bed this morning, showered, fed and out the door. Our bodies are constantly working for us, doing almost everything we ask of them and yet we’re so hard on them.

Starting today, try saying thank you to your body for all it’s done for you. We all want to be appreciated and our bodies are no exception. Gratitude goes a long way, even with ourselves.

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