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Angry, Stressed, Frustrated? Here’s A Simple Exercise To Quickly Return To Joy

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Nicole LeBris Creative

I was recently disappointed by a work situation that left me feeling unappreciated, annoyed, frustrated, stressed about money and all around pissed off. I know I’m not alone in these feelings. Who hasn’t felt this way at one time or another?

It’s part of the human condition, but so is the choice to do something about our pain, work through it and come out of the situation wiser, stronger and happier.

I have learned the hard way (through traumas and tragedy) that life is extremely precious and too short to spend it suffering. That’s not why we are here on Earth. When I am feeling out of alignment now, (stuck in anger, frustration and feeling irritable), I allow myself to feel those feeling deeply (no self-medicating with food, alcohol or shopping, or numbing myself out with mindless reality television).

It is vital that we let ourselves feel our feelings first, otherwise the pain will just resurface at a later date with a vengeance, negatively affecting our careers, relationships and health. I know, I used to suppress my feelings in the name of “put on a happy face” and “suck it up.”

When I give myself sufficient time to work through whatever painful emotions come up for me, I then remind myself to return to gratitude as quickly as possible.

Even when we are in a really dark place, we can be grateful just to be alive, have a place to live, food on the table, clean clothes, friends and family who love us and fancy gadgets to read blogs like this on. We certainly have it pretty darn good!

But when we are deep in our sadness and anger, these luxuries we are afforded don’t seem to be enough at times.

That’s when we have to turn to a greater power, ask for help, physically stop and take a moment to come back home to ourselves. If you are saying to yourself, “I don’t have time for that,” then you are in desperate need of your own undivided attention, unconditional love and care. I recommend making your health and happiness a priority like you would a newborn baby. If you can’t do it for yourself, do it for your children, significant other, best friend or all those less fortunate than us.

When we raise our vibration, we raise the vibration of the world, and the world could certainly use our radiance right now!

One of my favorite exercises to stop suffering in its tracks is from life coach extraordinaire and best-selling author Tony Robbins.

When you’re ready, find a comfortable place to sit, close your eyes and place your hands on your heart. Breathe into your heart. Notice how powerful and beautiful it feels. Focus for a moment on that strength and beauty. Feel appreciation.

Now think of the situation that is causing you pain, suffering, frustration or grief. For example, “I’m frustrated these jobs keep getting cancelled, and I don’t have more money in the bank right now to grow my business and live the lifestyle I desire without getting into debt.” Be specific.

Keep feeling your heart and listen carefully to it. What is it trying to tell you in this moment?

With your eyes still closed and connecting to the power of your heart and mind, pay attention to what comes up for you. Then ask yourself:

In this situation, all I need to remember is: (I’m safe, for example)

All I need to do is: (Trust)

All I need to focus on is: (Doing my best.)

Take as long as you need. There are no right or wrong answers. The important thing is to simply let yourself feel and be open to the truth pouring from your heart/Higher Self. For me, the truth is that I am safe, and all I need to do is trust and focus on doing my best.

Many of us spend our lives overstimulated and exhausted just trying to keep up to survive. That could mean we forget to return to our breath, slow down and listen to our inner knowing. Our heart always knows the answer. We just have to give it the time and space to speak our truth to us.

I find this exercise to be a quick and powerful way to end our suffering around whatever situation is making us feel out of sorts. It is free, relaxing, takes just minutes and can be done again and again with any situation to help transform our lives.

When we are in gratitude, we cannot also be in fear or anger. Choose wisely!

I also love this exercise because it’s a great reminder that we are 100% responsible for our life experiences. What an empowered place to live from! Certainly setbacks and disappointments, trauma and tragedy can and will arise, but we don’t have to stay stuck in a low-vibe state of despair. Our hearts and minds want to work together to bring us a fulfilling, joyful life that lights us up.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Free Yourself From Fear & Start Believing In Your Greatness

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Nicole LeBris Creative

If you ask most people what they want from life, they will probably tell you they want to be happy—they want to be loved. Success, fame and fortune might come up, too. But I think what we ultimately yearn for is freedom.

The freedom to be ourselves, especially in a world that is constantly telling us not to. The freedom of inner peace and feeling at home, and being able to take that feeling with us everywhere we go.

For me, the one thing that gets in the way of feeling free is fear.

Fear keeps us small, and stuck in self-limiting beliefs that don’t serve us. As with most behaviors we want to change, the first step in overcoming fear is acknowledging it.

Tell yourself the truth.

A big reason it is so difficult to release fear is that we have to be brutally honest with ourselves. You have to get real, and look deep within to discover how fear has been holding you back. The key is to confront your fears, rather than ignoring them.

I literally sat down with a pen and my journal, and wrote down what scares me:
Am I pretty enough? Smart enough? Thin, toned and strong enough? Am I lovable? Have I accomplished enough? Will I make enough money this year to stay out of debt? Am I going to be able to have a child of my own?

For years my mind was ruminating these fear-based stories that I wasn’t good enough. I was constantly striving for something that doesn’t exist—perfection—and it was making me physically sick. The stress and anxiety this story created in my life crippled me at times with meltdowns and panic attacks.

You are not your ego.

My life shifted dramatically the moment I realized that my ego is just this silly, fear-based voice in my head that feeds off of my insecurities and likes to keep me in a state of worry and disempowerment. What a jerk!

By identifying my ego for what it is (a jerk!), I am able to laugh at it, and see the absurdity in my fearful thoughts (e.g. “I’m not thin enough to date him,” or “I’m too old to book this job.”)

Saying these words out loud shows me just how ridiculous my fearful thoughts are. They literally serve no other purpose than to make me feel small and unworthy.

Witness your fear.

Once you are able to get real with yourself about what scares you, write it down and say it out loud to yourself, a friend, therapist or support group. I promise you, your fears will lose power over you.

Laugh at your fear.

By speaking my truth to a friend (and now all of you), I am able to laugh at it. The absurdity of my fear-based story is hilarious.

Your truth is your power. Your willingness to be honest with yourself, and not take these fear-based thoughts so seriously, will set you free down a much more pleasant path.

Write a new story.

One of my favorite quotes is, “Thoughts become things, choose the good ones.” ~ Mike Dooley

My new story I’ve created for myself is, “I am good enough and worthy of everything my heart desires and more.”

We can choose to see and create a new vision for ourselves rooted in peace and love. How do we do this? By literally making the conscious choice to see ourselves in a new light. We can look in the mirror and choose to see strength and beauty, or choose to see something unattractive.

Either way, there we are in the mirror. How do we want to see ourselves? Powerful or powerless? It is a choice, and our thoughts are extremely powerful in creating our reality.

I am 37 years old, size 12, and work full-time as a model all over the world. If I chose to listen to society or anyone else’s opinion besides my own (that tells me I’m too old, too big, too something to work as a model), I would not have this exciting career that pays me very well.

Release your fears, rather than gripping onto them so tightly.

I do this through meditation—twice a day, everyday. I know what you’re thinking: “I don’t have time to meditate!” “I don’t know how to meditate.” That’s what I used to think and say, until one day I had a panic attack and could barely breathe.

I recommend not waiting until you become physically ill to make some simple changes to your life that will yield huge positive benefits. Learning through pleasure feels much better than learning from pain. Remember to laugh!

Trust.

We live in uncertain times, and if you watch the news, I can see why you’re extremely fearful. The truth is, there really is no place completely safe from fear, except within ourselves. Try to stay focused on what you can control: your thoughts. Connect back to your own inner wisdom and intuition. This could also be what many refer to as their gut reaction.

Your fear-based ego might say, “You have to take this job, you need the money, otherwise you won’t be able to pay your bills, and you’ll be out on the street.” Yikes, that feels icky.

Your intuition, Higher Self, gut, whatever you want to call it, knows you are going to be okay if you don’t take this job that doesn’t feel right to you. Your inner wisdom knows that something much bigger and better is just around the corner, and if you stay true to yourself and your values, you will get it. You don’t need to settle.

While I have struggled for years with overcoming fearful thoughts and battling anxiety, I’ve discovered that what scared me the most (not being good enough) has been my greatest opportunity for deep healing and personal growth.

When fearful thoughts come up now, I trust that I am on the right path, and out my ego with a deep hearty laugh.

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