I was recently disappointed by a work situation that left me feeling unappreciated, annoyed, frustrated, stressed about money and all around pissed off. I know I’m not alone in these feelings. Who hasn’t felt this way at one time or another?
It’s part of the human condition, but so is the choice to do something about our pain, work through it and come out of the situation wiser, stronger and happier.
I have learned the hard way (through traumas and tragedy) that life is extremely precious and too short to spend it suffering. That’s not why we are here on Earth. When I am feeling out of alignment now, (stuck in anger, frustration and feeling irritable), I allow myself to feel those feeling deeply (no self-medicating with food, alcohol or shopping, or numbing myself out with mindless reality television).
It is vital that we let ourselves feel our feelings first, otherwise the pain will just resurface at a later date with a vengeance, negatively affecting our careers, relationships and health. I know, I used to suppress my feelings in the name of “put on a happy face” and “suck it up.”
When I give myself sufficient time to work through whatever painful emotions come up for me, I then remind myself to return to gratitude as quickly as possible.
Even when we are in a really dark place, we can be grateful just to be alive, have a place to live, food on the table, clean clothes, friends and family who love us and fancy gadgets to read blogs like this on. We certainly have it pretty darn good!
But when we are deep in our sadness and anger, these luxuries we are afforded don’t seem to be enough at times.
That’s when we have to turn to a greater power, ask for help, physically stop and take a moment to come back home to ourselves. If you are saying to yourself, “I don’t have time for that,” then you are in desperate need of your own undivided attention, unconditional love and care. I recommend making your health and happiness a priority like you would a newborn baby. If you can’t do it for yourself, do it for your children, significant other, best friend or all those less fortunate than us.
When we raise our vibration, we raise the vibration of the world, and the world could certainly use our radiance right now!
One of my favorite exercises to stop suffering in its tracks is from life coach extraordinaire and best-selling author Tony Robbins.
When you’re ready, find a comfortable place to sit, close your eyes and place your hands on your heart. Breathe into your heart. Notice how powerful and beautiful it feels. Focus for a moment on that strength and beauty. Feel appreciation.
Now think of the situation that is causing you pain, suffering, frustration or grief. For example, “I’m frustrated these jobs keep getting cancelled, and I don’t have more money in the bank right now to grow my business and live the lifestyle I desire without getting into debt.” Be specific.
Keep feeling your heart and listen carefully to it. What is it trying to tell you in this moment?
With your eyes still closed and connecting to the power of your heart and mind, pay attention to what comes up for you. Then ask yourself:
In this situation, all I need to remember is: (I’m safe, for example)
All I need to do is: (Trust)
All I need to focus on is: (Doing my best.)
Take as long as you need. There are no right or wrong answers. The important thing is to simply let yourself feel and be open to the truth pouring from your heart/Higher Self. For me, the truth is that I am safe, and all I need to do is trust and focus on doing my best.
Many of us spend our lives overstimulated and exhausted just trying to keep up to survive. That could mean we forget to return to our breath, slow down and listen to our inner knowing. Our heart always knows the answer. We just have to give it the time and space to speak our truth to us.
I find this exercise to be a quick and powerful way to end our suffering around whatever situation is making us feel out of sorts. It is free, relaxing, takes just minutes and can be done again and again with any situation to help transform our lives.
When we are in gratitude, we cannot also be in fear or anger. Choose wisely!
I also love this exercise because it’s a great reminder that we are 100% responsible for our life experiences. What an empowered place to live from! Certainly setbacks and disappointments, trauma and tragedy can and will arise, but we don’t have to stay stuck in a low-vibe state of despair. Our hearts and minds want to work together to bring us a fulfilling, joyful life that lights us up.