Why Everything, Even Tragedy, Is Happening For You

“No experience really goes wasted. A true understanding is to see the events of life this way. You are here for my benefit, though rumor paints you otherwise and everything is turned to one’s advantage when he greets a situation like this. You are the very thing I was looking for. Truly whatever arises in life is the right material to bring about your growth and the growth of those around you. Everything contains a special purpose and a hidden blessing. What then could be strange or arduous when all of life is here to greet you like an old and faithful friend.” 

~Marcus Aurelius

Every day (if we are lucky) we wake up, get up out of bed and go about our days. We have to keep going to bed, sleep and get rest in order to wake up again and again. We all know this.

What I’ve recently discovered though is that we also need to be woken up again and again while we are physically awake, living our lives day to day.

Recently, I got a big wake up call when I lost three of my main modeling clients and therefore the majority of my income. In the process, I realized I was placing so much of my self worth in my career, and whether or not clients validated me by booking me for their print campaigns.

I translated losing clients to not being worthy enough as a model or person. Yikes!

Working through these issues literally woke me up. I truly understood not just intellectually, but now energetically and emotionally that our self worth comes ONLY from the inside—nothing outside of ourselves can ever give us the joy and validation we seek and desire.

This perspective shift, which is what a miracle is, saved my life, and I thought because I had been woken up, I awake and good to go.

Then on October 26th, 2015, one of the most important people in my life, jumped off a bridge in Pasadena, committing suicide out of blue, coming as a complete shock to us all. Nothing could ever prepare me for the debilitating sadness, anger, confusion and grief that would accompany the days, weeks and months that followed.

While talking to a mentor about my depression and the grieving process, she looked at me and said, “This is all happening to wake you up.”

Wake me up? But I’m already awake! I’m wide awake!

She said, “We have to keep waking up again and again. We must keep waking up if we want to grow.”

It wasn’t easy, but slowly I began to see that there are spiritual lessons in our traumas—gifts, if you will, in the form of deeper self love, care, respect, creativity, power and purpose.

In my pain, I have found spiritual lessons, and have been given the tools to help improve the lives of others (as well as my own) by talking and writing about my experiences and creating a community of like-minded individuals to share their stories, heal, grow and wake up!

I have found deeper meaning to the pain, and have developed an even stronger faith in myself and the Universe. I see how everything is perfect, and happening for me and my highest good, not the good of my ego. I trust in that, even when it seems impossible to do so.

I appreciate my life in a profound new way, feeling truly grateful when I wake up every morning to another day where I can choose to be and create whatever I desire.

I have been forced to look at my life, and redefine my definitions of success and self worth.

For me, it is the quality of my relationships, most notably the one with myself. It is peace of mind, being gentle with myself and others, having a kind heart even when it is challenging. It is living every day with courage, confidence, authenticity, vulnerability and joy. It is looking in the mirror and being proud of the gorgeously flawed woman staring back at me, because if nothing else, I am brave enough to be myself.

Now that is a gift!

How do you define success and self worth? I’d love to hear from you!


The Key To Manifesting A Miracle


I am so thrilled and honored to be a part of this exciting GLOWSCHOOL BLOG TOUR created by my dear friend, Dana Gatziolis. I met Dana at Gabrielle Bernstein’s Spirit Junkie Masterclass Level 2 last October at Kripalu Center for Yoga & Health in Massachusetts. Glow is the perfect word to describe Dana–she has a true zest for life, and radiates light and love. You simply feel better when you are in her presence.

Dana also gave me an incredible gift during her transformational talk at our retreat. Her courage to speak openly about a painful experience (something I have also lived through) broke me wide open, and gave me the freedom to release deep-seated wounds. It was one of the greatest gifts anyone has ever given me, and it didn’t cost a dime.

That’s what I learned that day: Nothing is more healing, freeing and powerful than sharing our stories, sharing our TRUTH.

That’s what this blog tour is all about: Empowered women sharing their truth, and creating the space for others to share theirs as well. As I like to say: Share your truth, Save your life.

I’m sending you all the courage, confidence, love and support to dig deep, share your story, accept, witness and feel the pain associated with your deep-seated wounds, discover the spiritual lesson in the hurt (there is always a beautiful lesson), and find compassion for yourself and others to forgive and heal. This is the year to choose again, and be happy.

It’s your moment, let’s GLOW!


My life has been about striving for perfection while constantly questioning, “Am I good enough?”

Am I pretty enough? Smart enough? Thin, toned and strong enough? Am I lovable? Have I accomplished enough?

I work full-time as a model. I’m what the industry refers to as a “plus-size” or “curve” model because I am bigger than a size 4/6. I’ve spent years looking for validation in all the wrong places—model castings—where clients judge us based on hair color and hip size, and society, which thinks we should all be a size 2 with big boobs.

When I book jobs and build steady clients, I feel validated. I’m busy, I’m making great money, and my friends and relatives can see me in magazines, in stores and online.

Then I lost my main client. A new person in charge decided to shoot on smaller models. Another steady client decided to hire all new models and “switch things up.” I was dropped.

I was going on more castings than ever before, but I wasn’t booking the jobs. My breaking point came when I was up for a huge national campaign that paid a ton of money. I was so excited about the opportunity. The casting director told my agent she absolutely loved me, and thought I was a perfect fit. I didn’t get the job.

I remember walking down Park Avenue crying. I knew the decision wasn’t personal, but it felt that way. I know the business I choose to work in is extremely competitive and has nothing to do with how nice I am, how smart I am, how hard I work. Despite knowing better, I started down a dangerous spiral of, “Why don’t they like me? What’s wrong with me? What do I need to change about myself?”

The “I’m not good enough” thoughts were attacking my mind, and I felt my breathing start to change. I was having a panic attack on Park Avenue.

After a good cry, good meal and good conversation with a dear friend, I went home and told myself, “Something’s gotta give here, Kate.” I always thought of myself as one of the happiest people I know, and now here I was having a meltdown almost weekly. It wasn’t healthy.

I’m smart enough to know that happiness begins and ends with me, but I was in too much pain to shift my thoughts all on my own. 

I needed help. I prayed for a miracle. Instead of saying, I give up, I said, I give it all up to you, God. I surrender.

In admitting to myself that I didn’t have all the answers, and surrendering to something so much greater than myself, I experienced a kind of peace and freedom that I haven’t felt since I was a child. 

Releasing my need to be validated by others, (which I often justified because a client’s validation of me pays my bills), and turning instead to the grace of God to guide me to love and validate myself has literally saved my life.

Being in alignment with a greater power has given me my power back. I can relax. I trust. I know that the Universe has my back. I am taken care of, and even when it seems that things are not lining up in my favor, I quickly see how everything is happening FOR me. 

When I get my ego out of the way, and ask for the highest energy of the Universe to speak to me and through me, and show me the way, meltdowns are replaced by miracles. I expect them now.

That desperate need to try to control outcomes has been replaced with acceptance of what is and allowing what is meant for me. Not everything is meant for me. I am ok with that now.

Now, when I don’t book a job, I’m fine with it. The obsessive thoughts over what I could have done differently or better, or stories I used to create about not being good enough have been replaced with excitement about what bigger and better plan is in store for me.

One of my favorite mantras is, “This or something better.” So when I don’t book “this” job, I know I’m about to land something better and perfect for me.

I live in faith now, not fear. I go in, I do my best, I have fun, smile and give it my all. Then I release it. If an old thought pattern tries to creep in, I acknowledge it, take a deep breath and exhale it. I know it’s just a thought.

I’ve learned the biggest key to manifesting is to pray for the highest good for all, and to be detached from the outcome.

That’s so big, I need to say it again:

The biggest key to manifesting is to pray for the highest good for all, and to be detached from the outcome.


Let that steep in for a minute.

I begin and end each day with a 20-minute transcendental meditation. This commitment to stillness is manifested in inspiration, joy, peace, clear focus and creativity. When I live my life from this place, I’m in the flow and don’t have to try as hard — jobs, relationships and opportunities just seem to open up organically for me.

For me, it is a miracle that I am able to practice self love instead of constantly beating myself up with negative thoughts that do not serve me.

That’s what I am committed to everyday. Small acts of self love and care to validate myself. Going to the gym. Writing. Meditation. Prayer. Getting energy work done. Eating food that nourish my body. Making a friend smile and laugh. Creating the space for people to live in their truth.

What small acts of self care and love do you practice daily? I’d love to hear from you! Sending you so much peace and joy! xoxo


Yesterday, Karissa shared her favorite GLOW tips with us, and I’m so excited to read what Flora is sharing on Monday!

Jump on board this beautiful blog tour, and GLOW with us!

Also, I highly recommend taking advantage of Dana’s FREE 10-Day Get Glowing Adventure – starting February 1st: 10 days of simple + fun daily challenges + inspiration. Hope to see you there! Let’s GLOW!


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