7 Tips For Loving & Honoring Your Body (Yes, Even The “Flaws”)

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It’s become part of what it means to be human: point out something about yourself you don’t like, a perceived flaw that needs to be fixed.

We haven’t learned this behavior all on our own: we’re constantly being bombarded with images of “perfect” (airbrushed, sometimes completely reconstructed) bodies. We’re constantly being fed a message of needing to slim down and tone up. Want the job? Lose weight! Want your dream partner? Lose weight! Want to be happy, rich, successful, attractive? Lose weight!

It’s easy to see why we’re so hard on ourselves, finding it impossible to reach a beauty standard that’s absurd and unattainable.

At a healthy size 12, I work as a plus-size model. I find the label degrading, but at the same time, I’m happy there’s a place in the industry for my body type: I love representing curvy women and showing more diversity in fashion.

I’ve certainly been guilty of comparing myself to others, and definitely had some emotional moments being the “big girl” on set when shooting with size two models. But these insecurities ultimately let me heal and release, and that’s been the greatest blessing of all.

Here are some of the steps I’ve taken and committed to that have enabled me to love and honor my body:

1. Practice the art of acceptance, even when it seems impossible.

Loving your body starts with acceptance. You have to know who you are and what you’re working with.

I’m built exactly like my dad: tall, strong and athletic. I’m not, have never been and will never be super skinny. It isn’t my body type or bone structure. But I eat clean, work out and stay active. I’m not the skinniest girl in the room, but I’m definitely one of the strongest!

Focus on your best assets. My thighs may be “big,” but they’re are what help me be a great athlete, and I find beauty in strength and fitness.

2. Learn to forgive wholeheartedly.

Through guided meditations, energy work like Reiki, journaling, walks in nature, reading and dedication to living a healthy lifestyle, I’ve learned to forgive myself for negative self-talk and others for the unkind things they say about my body or body type. Forgiveness is a choice I choose to make on a regular basis.

Recognize unkind words as just thoughts, perceived fear not based in reality. Forgiveness releases you and others, allowing you to live your life from a place of love. Anything you’ve done to your body that didn’t come from a loving place can be forgiven and healed.

3. Be willing to see your body in a new light.

Be willing to let go of old thought patterns that don’t promote a positive body image. Be willing to see love instead of fear. Be willing to eat healthy, exercise and take care of your body. Be willing to try new things.

For me, it was reiki, fascial stretch therapy and meditation. These practices put me more in touch with my energy, body and ability to heal. As the old saying goes, “Where there’s a will, there’s a way.” Or as I like to say, If I can do it, so can you!

4. Gain a sense of perspective.

A shift in perspective can literally shift your life. By choosing to see your body as beautiful and appreciate it for all it’s done for you, you can honor your body instead of complaining about what’s wrong with it. Our egos love for us to believe bad things about ourselves, so don’t take the bait. Choose to see your body as the temple it is instead.

5. Don’t compare.

This is a big one, and something our society loves to do. Comparing keeps us small. It lowers our energy. Quite simply, it feels like crap.

I meet many naturally thin women who tell me they wish they had my curves despite sometimes wishing I had a slimmer stomach. It’s imperative that we stay in our own lane. The wasted time and energy you spend comparing yourself to others could be spent nurturing your own body.

6. Take a bath.

It might sound silly, I know, but I take a bubble bath almost everyday. Besides getting clean, I find it extremely relaxing and it helps me connect to my body. It’s my time to take care of and nurture myself. It’s not just a skin-softening ritual, but also a body love ritual.

Warm water, healing epsom salts and essential oils give me such a sense of calm and draw attention to my sense of self. We’re all so busy working and taking care of others that we often neglect ourselves. A bath slows you down and allows you to love yourself in a pure, simple way.

7. Say thank you.

Forget the grueling hour-long sessions with your trainer, marathon races or even child birth for a second. Yes, your body does all of that for you, but it also got you up out of bed this morning, showered, fed and out the door. Our bodies are constantly working for us, doing almost everything we ask of them and yet we’re so hard on them.

Starting today, try saying thank you to your body for all it’s done for you. We all want to be appreciated and our bodies are no exception. Gratitude goes a long way, even with ourselves.

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I’ve tried nearly every skin care product on the market, from drug store to high-brow brands. I discovered essential oils for skin care several years ago, and was amazed how luminous they made my skin look and feel. I love that every drop I apply to my face is all-natural with no harmful, chemical ingredients.

I have spent years researching, experimenting and creating my own face serums to address not only my own personal beauty needs, but the needs of everyone who wants a healthy, radiant complexion using all-natural ingredients.

Each of my pure oil blends is perfect for anyone who desires ultra-hydrated, ageless skin and a glowing, luminous complexion.

I’m so happy to be able to offer you my luxurious anti-aging face oils made from a unique proprietary blend of 100% pure, rich, therapeutic-grade essential oils derived from flowers and botanicals. Your skin will look and feel nourished from the inside out. These multitasking miracle workers address a myriad of skin concerns, while their beautiful aromas have been proven to calm and soothe your mind and spirit.

Through careful research and personal trial-and-error, here is a detailed explanation of why I chose these stand-out essential oils to use in my hand-crafted beauty blends:

Rose Oil:

Used for skin care for thousands of years, and packed with vitamins, minerals and antioxidants, rose essential oil is perfect for moisturizing dry or aging skin.

It also offers antiseptic and astringent properties to help treat acne prone skin, as well as anti-inflammatory properties to soothe redness and inflammation.

Rose oil can also help refine skin texture, controlling skin diseases such as psoriasis and atopic dermatitis.

Rose oil vapor has also shown the ability to protect against oxidative stress, which is associated with depression. In a study among postpartum women, rose oil demonstrated its strength and effectiveness as a safe, all-natural antidepressant and anti-anxiety treatment. So, a little rose oil on the face not only improves your complexion but also your mood and overall mental well-being.

Fun fact: It takes tens of thousands of rose blossoms to yield one ounce of rose essential oil. That makes it one of the most expensive essential oils, but it is super concentrated, so just one drop goes a long way.

Neroli Oil:

(Orange Blossom) is great for oily, sensitive, and mature skin. It helps to smooth fine lines and tone sagging skin. This rejuvenating oil contains a natural chemical called citral, which helps regenerate cells and improve skin elasticity. This powerfully healing oil helps prevent and smooth stretch marks, scar tissue, acne and broken capillaries.

Its antiseptic properties also balance oil production and shrink the appearance of pores without drying skin.

Jasmine Oil:

Known as the “King of Oils,” jasmine essential oil is traditionally used to restore skin. Relaxing, uplifting and exotic, jasmine increases skin’s elasticity and helps balance moisture in the skin to naturally reduce dryness. Its natural antibacterial properties protect and aid skin’s immunity.
Jasmine essential oil also heals blemishes and scars, and is fantastic for toning all skin types.

Ylang Ylang Oil:

Its rich, floral fragrance smells so good I want to eat it. Ylang Ylang helps control oil production and minimize breakouts. It also helps regenerate skin cells, smoothing fine lines and improving skin elasticity. Excellent essential oil for every skin type.

Bergamot Oil:

The oil from the peel of the bergamot fruit can help remedy a myriad of difficult skin conditions from acne to dark spots, hyper pigmentation and eczema.

Bergamot is a natural antibiotic and disinfectant, and helps control excess oil production in the skin.
It is also an antiseptic, which encourages wound healing and skin regeneration. If you have old acne scars, eczema, psoriasis, or even cold sores, this oil can help the skin heal faster. Bergamot can help prevent new scars and fade old ones by regulating the distribution of skin’s natural pigment—melanin—while balancing skin tone.

It’s enlivening citrus scent also helps relieve stress and anxiety.


Who is the Ultimate Beauty Elixir for?

Everyone and anyone (Yes, men, too!) who wants healthy, beautiful, luminous skin. Applied morning and evening, my essential oil beauty blends are instantly absorbed to nourish and hydrate skin, leaving it toned and radiant without feeling greasy. Vital vitamins, antioxidants and essential fatty acids help revive a lackluster complexion, increase elasticity, boost resilience, heal blemishes and rebalance the skin’s natural hydration system. Skin is protected from free radical damage and uplifted by vibrant, healing aromas of pure oils.


My 100% pure, therapeutic-grade essential oil blends are hand-crafted with purpose and passion, and enhanced by the power of reiki intention as I am a certified Reiki Master.

Each bottle is carefully and personally blended with love and care by yours truly. In order to maintain our high standards, I oversee every aspect of the manufacturing process at my home facility in Edgewater, NJ.

Our precious, exotic oils are tested to ensure they are not adulterated, and the actual blending area is treated as a sacred space.


100% pure, rich therapeutic-grade essential oils derived from flowers and botanicals to nourish and soothe your skin from the inside out. That’s it, no chemicals, preservatives or anything else goes into our skin care.

The following all natural carrier oils are used to blend with our 100% pure essential oils: Pure Coconut Oil, Pure Sesame Seed Oil, Pure Grape Seed Oil, Pure Sweet Almond Oil, Pure Wheat Germ Oil, Pure Sunflower Seed Oil, Pure Olive Fruit Oil.


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